What Is Courtship? Can It Be Defined

 

We must teach our young girls about the enemy’s tactics. The devil is the greatest deceiver and he uses words and charm to get what he wants.

A man is always nice until he gets what he wants from a woman. Dear woman, Make him prove his worth without getting the prize first...

In older times, there was a process called courting.

Courtship is when a couple takes time to develop a deep mental bond and foundation. It prioritizes the mental connection over anything else by getting to know each other before getting married. There is no sex involved during the courting stage to ensure the relationship is based on other things than sex.

If you don’t take the time to build a stable foundation, the house will eventually fall.

This is why some men will stay but not marry. They never wanted intimacy they just wanted sex, because true intimacy is rooted in God.

Some people wonder about a relationship where there is 'no physical involvement before marriage' and the possibility if a couple could get married and then to find out they have no sexual or romantic feelings for each other.The advice is one should not be physically involved until after the commitment to marriage. This is the only way of ensuring that you only romance one partner in your lifetime.  If you allow the physical romance to dominate before the commitment and if it does not work out,then there is the possibility of several romances, with all the pain and emotional baggage that it entails.

There can be exciting and edifying activities in a God-honouring relationship before the marriage/wedding ceremony!  There is a time for everything.  Be actively involved together in ministries of corporate prayer,Bible study,church/youth camps,fellowship groups,choir and weekly church activities.

Romance is a subjective feeling.Be warned that when rough times come in the relationship (and it will), romantic feelings will not be the only thing that will keep you together.  Instead, it will be your commitment to God and to each other that will overcome the vicissitudes of life.  “Love and be committed to the one you marry" (Eph 5:28, 33) and "marry the one you love and commit." Both equally are important.

One of the first things people are affected by in a relationship is external attraction for each other.This is important only to some extent and should not be the sole primary consideration. The growing feelings of romance and love should not depend on the external countenance only as the basis of marriage (although you should like the looks of each other.)The other aspects of spiritual,intellectual and social developments need to be considered as well.  Above all,relationships and marriage must have the approval of God first before it can be blessed by Him.As Christians,we should desire this divine approval from heaven that we may “glorify God and enjoy Him forever.”The Lord desires His best for us.(Eph 5:15,16). Remember that though marriage is made in heaven,courtship and maintenance is done on earth .  

God doesn’t need to punish us because sin has its own.We have freedom of choice but we also have to accept what comes with that choice.

God is a forgiving father but the wages of sin is death.Be wise in what you chose to do because you will have to be the one to lives with that choice.