𝐈𝐒 𝐊𝐈𝐒𝐒𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐈𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐋 𝐈𝐍 𝐀 𝐂𝐇𝐑𝐈𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐀𝐍 𝐑𝐄𝐋𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏?

𝗛𝗶𝗺: Counselor Debby, can I kiss my partner while in courtship?"

𝗠𝗲: No, sir! You can't and you shouldn't.

𝗛𝗶𝗺: Why? It's just an ordinary kiss. There's nothing special.

𝗠𝗲: There's nothing like an 'ordinary kiss' between two lovers. And yes, kissing is special. Don't fall victim to the lie that there's nothing special about sharing kisses with the love of your life. Why would you be so interested in doing something for or with your lover, when you know it's not special? Doesn't it look odd?

𝗛𝗶𝗺: What if it's just a holy kiss between us?

𝗠𝗲: Sir, quit the self-deception. Holiness and kissing in a relationship are two parallel lines that can never meet. (I beckoned for him to listen to me more attentively).

Kissing has been seen as a harmless expression of love between two lovers right from time. When people go on dates, they kiss to bid each other farewell. Many people believe it is normal in any romantic relationship and without it, the relationship is plain and boring. 

When I was much younger, I read a book titled, "Questions Young People Ask, Answers That Work." The book talked about acts to avoid in a Godly relationship. It talks about avoiding acts like kissing, petting, pecking, hugging, romancing, and having s.e.x in Christian relationships. 

Thankfully, more people are getting more inclined towards se.xu.al purity, so the struggle to have s.e.x before saying 'I DO' is gradually depreciating. However, very many Christians still battle with some other acts that can lead to s.e.x.u.a.l sin.

The Bible commands us to flee from lust and s.e.x.u.a.l. sin. What stimulates or can foster it should be avoided like a plague.

💋First, Kissing is a form of intercourse on its own. During s.e.x.u.a.l intercourse, there's an exchange of body fluids (v.a.g.i.n.a discharge and sp.erm). During kissing, theirs equally an exchange of body fluids (saliva). The lips are locked together, just as the p.e.n.i.s and v.a.g.i.n.a are locked together during s.e.x. Their tongues connect too and you end up swallowing each other's saliva. This is purely an act of intimacy and should never be indulged in during courtship. 

💋Secondly, Kissing is an essential part of lovêmakïng. It's f.o.r.e.p.l.a.y. In marriage, if couples want to get in the mood for lovêmakïng, kissing is one of the activities that they engage in. It serves as a forerunner for lovêmakïng. It prepares the ground as it makes everyone w.e.t and set for action. So, tell me why you want to begin a journey you have no intention of ending? Please, don't ignite the passion untimely. Wait for the right time to explore this. 

💋Third, Kissing is an appetizer. An appetizer is supposed to leave you wanting more. The moment you start kissing each other during courtship, you will begin to desire more. You will become Oliver Twist in no distant time. The passion has been ignited, albeit untimely. If care is not taken, both of you can go the extra mile and end up eating the forbidden fruit. Or, it could easily lead you to having Solo s.e.x (mas.turb.ation), when you disengage from your partner. The hormones have been awakened and until they release their pent-up feelings, they won't relax. 

💋Fourth, Kissing goes hand-in-hand with other se.xu.al activities. It's rare to kiss without fondling other parts of the body, especially parts that play integral roles in lovemaking. From kissing, the hands roam to the b.r.e.a.s.t.s, b.u.t.t.o.c.k.s and others. By so doing, you're stimulating yourself and your partner s.e.x.u.a.l.ly. 

It's important to note that a woman can reach orgasm just by being kissed passionately and fondled rightly. 

Doing any of these outside the confines of marriage is not only ungodly but dangerous for the health of your relationship. You're laying a bad foundation for the marriage. 

By all means, avoid:

✓Situations that put you in a tempting position with your partner.

✓Staying in a solitary or secluded place alone with your partner.

✓Acts that will leave you spiritually empty during courtship.

✓Acts that will deplete and sap you of your spiritual strength. 

✓Acts that stimulate or excite you or your partner Sexually.

May God give us Christian Homes, Amen!

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© Debby Airebanmen-Jegede 

Christian Relationship Coach and Marriage Counselor